FAQ

I see clients in the evenings and on weekends.

We can meet online wherever you are comfortable if you are in Colorado.

I use a HIPAA-compliant video provider that allows me to send you a single link you will use for all our sessions.

You can call me at (575) 770-0436 or email me at nicholasboeder@gmail.com. I respond in 24 business hours.

I like to pace therapy and not rush the process. Typically, a first session is an opportunity for you to outline a broad portrait of your life history and introduce the problem at hand. It is an opportunity to share the “story before the story” that brought you to counseling.

I love learning about a person’s hobbies, goals, and passions. Ultimately, I like the first session to be a gentle introduction to the deeper clinical work.

I do my best to create a comfortable atmosphere for therapy to happen. I seek to cultivate a judgment-free environment that is focused, curious, and productive. However, the character of sessions will vary. Some sessions involve the mapping, organizing, and processing of historical material. Some sessions are solutions-focused, goal-oriented, and involve what is immediately happening in a person’s life.

That depends. Each case is different. I believe impactful therapy can occur over a relatively short period of time (8 to 12 sessions) and can have great value over a longer period. Ultimately, we will be looking toward the best way to traverse the therapy process and to find closure.

My goal is to help people to a point where they feel comfortable not needing therapy.

Absolutely not! I always tell people that I am not a detective. I do my best to ask appropriate questions and never want my clients to feel pressured to share more than they are comfortable sharing. I respect my clients’ privacy and do not feel people need to divulge every aspect of their lives with their therapist.

I believe effective therapy can benefit anyone. Therapy is great for people seeking insight into their lives and relationships. It can be very effective for people who feel “stuck” or are at a difficult crossroads in their life.

I work with people from a strengths-based perspective. This means I am always noting and reflecting on what is going well in a person’s life and what attributes they have to help combat their difficulties. I work with people in a personable and down-to-earth way and want to be an ally in your effort to better your life.

I truly believe the benefits significantly outweigh the risks of therapy. I think the greatest risk of therapy is working with a therapist who is not an appropriate fit for your needs or who is under-qualified as a professional.

Often, though, it is healthy risk-taking that can lead to positive change. For example, when a client risks being vulnerable and honest with a loved one or risks more fully trusting themselves, these are examples of risk-taking in therapy that can be quite beneficial.

I offer primarily video sessions but am happy to meet with clients by phone if necessary.

I am a big believer in the work people can do to improve their lives outside my office. Physical exercise is hugely valuable, helping stabilize one’s mood. I also think immersion in nature is extremely healing. And I believe learning new hobbies and pursuing different levels of mastery in one’s life is powerful.

I believe most people have a strong intuition when deciding on the therapist to work with. During our initial consultation, I ask people to bring important questions regarding my approach, philosophy, and life orientation. We will have an honest, transparent conversation and determine the best way forward.

I am not a trained Christian Counselor, but I am quite comfortable working with Christian clients. I understand the parameters of Christian Counseling and feel comfortable working with people who have a Biblical worldview and are seeking therapy that values this perspective.

Yes

I manage conflict during couples sessions but certainly create space for couples to argue with one another effectively. Unproductive or hostile fighting does not happen during my work with couples.

Nine years

Personality, empathic presence, sense of humor

I love many things about being a therapist. I hold the space very sacred. I deeply value being allowed into the difficult parts of my clients’ lives. And I love it when my clients can make real, positive changes in their lives because of our work.

Yes, I have.

I graduated with a BA from The College of Wooster in 1997 and with an MSW from Portland State University in 2007.

No, I am not a prescribing clinician.

Yes. I have been a Licensed Clinical Social Worker since 2014.